What is a tough conversation? You know a conversation that you usually avoid or put off. The conversations that may hurt another persons feelings or go against your values. These conversations are important to have and will help you grow. Having your voice heard is a very expansive process. It allows you to aline with your highest self. It is important to communicate how you feel in a mindful compassionate way. We can let others know that we feel hurt or angry without hurting them.
We use these 3 tips from Jae Ellard to help us stay confident during tough conversations.
Tip #1 Context
It isn’t just about assigning blame. It is about creating dialogue around toxic and disruptive issues, so all involved can feel heard and choose to create a different reality. Offer context as to what the issue is, and, ideally, why it’s actually an issue for you. Done in a nonjudgmental way, this kind of sharing builds compassion and allows everyone to get on the same page. It’s when we don’t offer context that the discomfort grows.
It’s when we don’t offer context that the discomfort grows.
Tip #2 Invite Options
If someone is making a request that isn’t possible, say so and invite a conversation about what is possible. It’s important to ask how that might work for the person making the request. Explaining, offering another solution, and inviting dialogue increases the sense of sharing and collaboration.
Tip #3 Be Sincere
Say what you mean with grace, respect, and as much authenticity as possible. When you speak from the heart, even if others don’t like or agree with the message, the energy behind the intention comes through. Odds are strong that your honesty will help things to shift.