Lit review “The Bad Seed” by Jory John
Emotional IQ is defined as being able to express all of your emotions and feel all of your emotions. Having a high emotional intelligence children and adults are able to express all that they feel allowing for balance and centred vibration. We believe that everyone is good. Sometimes we make a bad choice which may lead to a bad behaviour but the key message we need to send our children is that these choices do not make us bad.
This book “The Bad Seed” sends a message that rings loud and clear that there are “bad seeds”, this to me is not something I want to read to my kids or a classroom of open loving children. If we teach our children that they are a “bad seed” how do they feel or think about themselves as they grow up? The cycle continues and they self fulfill and our thoughts become our actions. To raise conscious connected children we need them to hear positive messages about themselves. They need to know that they can make bad choices but that they themselves are not bad. Even though at the end of this book the “bad seed” does want to change the message is not positive. We as a society need to look at the books that our children are being taught with and ask ourselves is this a positive message? Does this teach our children emotional intelligence? Are we raising conscious children?
Here are some tips to help you change the language in which we speak to our children:
- Instead of telling your child they are bad, tell them that their behaviour (age 2-6) is bad age (7-21) their choices are bad.
- Listen to children and allow them to tell you how they feel. Acknowledge their feelings just they way they are. This will help prevent a total melt down. As melt downs usually represent the child does not know how to appropriately express how they feel.
If you want to learn more about emotional IQ check out our family yoga. We do lots of discussion, poses, meditation to help parents and children bond and express themselves.